Suze Orman Promotes the Victim Mentality

Posted by idawrites on April 15, 2008 in Book Review, Finance, Money |

I’m trying to read Suze Orman’s book The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical & Spiritual Steps So You Can Stop Worrying. I just can’t do it! I’m 7 pages in, and already the victim mentality of this book is threatening to overwhelm me.

I know that people have difficult relationships with money. Most people, in fact. I know that I sure do. But I don’t blame my childhood, my parents, my lack of having that new coat, or broken bones for it. I don’t believe that one memory from when I was 6 and swallowed a handful of pennies because my mom didn’t give me money for the ice cream truck has colored my entire life’s spending habits.

The scary part about these books, in my opinion, is that there are people reading them, nodding their heads and continuing to perpetuate the cycle of victimization. Thousands of women are reading this drivel and saying to themselves “We were poor, and I was embarrassed, that explains why I can’t get out of $80,000 in credit card debt! Whew, and I thought it was my fault!”

Lynnae at Being Frugal is writing a review of (Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents and so far, a lot of the comments really resonate with me. Entitlement mentality, Victim mentality, to me they’re extremely similar. We live in a world where it is now completely acceptable to walk around blaming everyone but oneself for the problems we’ve dug ourselves into.

Well, let me be the first to say: “Hi, my name is Ida, and I am responsible for my own actions.” I’m also responsible for my own debts. I’m responsible for my own savings account balance. I’m responsible for my retirement plan. I’m responsible for making all of these things better… and the ice cream man isn’t.


  • Anonymous says:

    Exactly!!! We are all responsible for our own debt, making healthy choices (daily struggle),raising competent children with strong morals and values, and making a choice everyday to be kind. Do you think being a “victim” and being a “whiner” is sometimes the same thing?

  • lynnae says:

    Preach it! I’m almost dreading reading the rest of (Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents. I’m sure I’ll get lots of blog mileage out of it though.

    I’m definitely more into Dave Ramsey: Do what you have to do to get out of debt, and don’t blame anyone else for your problems. Much more my style.

    Thanks for the mention!

  • notesfromthefrugaltrenches.com says:

    Thank you for the post! When I wrote my second post about my financial mistakes I purposely mentioned that no one was responsible for my debt but me, it’s so important. I read something recently about how people are taught to externalize things from childhood for example “I didn’t do well in that class because of the teacher” or “my parents didn’t pay for my college which is why I am broke” and actually those people never are able to cope with/see their mistakes by internalizing their own actions!
    Great post!

  • jskell911 says:

    Absolutely! I don’t believe in the victim mentality either. I grew up poor, but my financial situation is MY responsibility. I think that may be why I am NOT in massive CC debt or trying to keep up with the Joneses’.

  • L@SpillingBuckets says:

    Orman annoys me every time I see her. There’s the victim mentality she encourages, and the way she talks to people as if they are completely stupid.

    Great post.

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