I’m trying to read Suze Orman’s book The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom: Practical & Spiritual Steps So You Can Stop Worrying. I just can’t do it! I’m 7 pages in, and already the victim mentality of this book is threatening to overwhelm me.
I know that people have difficult relationships with money. Most people, in fact. I know that I sure do. But I don’t blame my childhood, my parents, my lack of having that new coat, or broken bones for it. I don’t believe that one memory from when I was 6 and swallowed a handful of pennies because my mom didn’t give me money for the ice cream truck has colored my entire life’s spending habits.
The scary part about these books, in my opinion, is that there are people reading them, nodding their heads and continuing to perpetuate the cycle of victimization. Thousands of women are reading this drivel and saying to themselves “We were poor, and I was embarrassed, that explains why I can’t get out of $80,000 in credit card debt! Whew, and I thought it was my fault!”
Lynnae at Being Frugal is writing a review of (Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents and so far, a lot of the comments really resonate with me. Entitlement mentality, Victim mentality, to me they’re extremely similar. We live in a world where it is now completely acceptable to walk around blaming everyone but oneself for the problems we’ve dug ourselves into.
Well, let me be the first to say: “Hi, my name is Ida, and I am responsible for my own actions.” I’m also responsible for my own debts. I’m responsible for my own savings account balance. I’m responsible for my retirement plan. I’m responsible for making all of these things better… and the ice cream man isn’t.